THE SELF-ESTEEM

and its influence on our life

Confidence in our capabilities

A human need.

What is self esteem? Do I have self-esteem? Do I know how to value myself? Do I trust my abilities? Do I love myself, with my strengths and weaknesses? These are all questions that we can ask ourselves over the years and we do not always know how to find the answer. A healthy self-esteem will be one that allows us to trust our ability to think, to make decisions, to respect ourselves and that will help us face those challenges that life presents us. The one that reaffirms us in the right that we all have to be happy.

Self-esteem has an effect on our actions from day to day and vice versa. If we enjoy healthy self-esteem, we will be more likely to face difficulties and persist in the effort to overcome them. Self-esteem plays an active role in most of our experiences.

A healthy self-esteem is correlated with rationality, realism, intuition, creativity, independence, flexibility and the ability to accept changes, as well as the desire to admit and correct mistakes and the benevolence and willingness to cooperate. (Branden, 1995).

It is possible that we do not feel identified with all these skills or characteristics, but self-esteem is something innate in the human being and we can all work on aspects that affect our self-esteem and thus build a healthier one where we have learned to value ourselves more.

Often a person with high self-esteem is confused with a proud, arrogant person, but they have nothing to do with it, the person who shows pride hides a low self-esteem. People with healthy self-esteem do not behave in a superior way to others. Their joy comes from being who they are and not from being better than others.

Self-esteem according to Nathaniel Branden, has two components that are related to each other:

  • Personal efficacy that means confidence in the functioning of my mind, in my ability to think and understand, to learn, choose and make decisions, believe in myself. Confidence in myself.
  • Self-respect which means reaffirming myself in my personal worth, a positive attitude towards the right to live and be happy. The comfort of properly reaffirming my thoughts, my desires and my needs.

Maria Garreta, Collegiate Psychologist nº 21887

THE SIX SELF-ESTEEM PILLARS: (BRANDEN, 1995)

  • The practice of living consciously.
  • The practice of accepting yourself.
  • The practice of taking responsibility for yourself.
  • The practice of self-assertion.
  • The practice of living with purpose.
  • The practice of personal integrity.

According to the author, self-esteem is a consequence and cannot be directly influenced, it will be through work (practices) on what has an effect on self-esteem that we will build this healthy self-esteem. Let’s practice in our day to day and with the people around us, in order to integrate those changes related to the practices of self-esteem.